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Living an Orthodox Life: The Orthodox Family

The Christian Marriage and Family: Four Audio Lectures by Fr. Josiah Trenham.

The Orthodox Christian Marriage, by Priest Alexey [now Hieromonk Ambrose] Young.

Marriage: The Great Sacrament, by Archimandrite Aimilianos of Simonopetra, Mount Athos. This is an excerpt from The Church at Prayer: The Mystical Liturgy of the Heart. Many consider this to be the best statement on Orthodox marriage they've ever read.

The Orthodox Family: many articles containing information for Orthodox Christian families.

Homilies by St. John Chrysostomos that Discuss Marriage: Homily XII on Col. 4:12-13, Homily XX on Eph. 5:22-24, and this homily entitled "That No One Should Despair of Himself, or Pray Against His Enemies, or Give Up When He Does Not Receive What He Asks For; And To Husbands, On Maintaining Peace Towards Their Wives."

Articles on marriage from the Orthodox America Web site.

New Age Philosophy, Orthodox Thought, and Marriage, by Archimandrite Luke of Holy Trinity Seminary in Jordanville, NY. This article/review includes critical comments on a chapter entitled "The Mystery of Marriage", found in an Orthodox catechism called The Faith, by Clark Carlton. Additional comments by Hieromonk Patapios are also included.

The Orthodox Family: by Archbishop Chrysostomos.

Excerpts from Family Life, by Elder Paisios the Athonite. This is a selection of passages translated by Fr. Luke Hartung, never before seen in English. It is a work-in-progress.

Admonitions for Parents: Lessons by Our Holy Father John Chrysostomos on Raising Children.

The Feast of the Circumcision of Our Lord Jesus Christ: Humble Comments and Suggestions.

Offend Not These Little Ones: On Toys and Children, by Rassaphore-monk Hilarion.

Children In Church, by Protopresbyter Michael Pomazansky.

Children and Television: by Novice Joseph. From the first few issues of Orthodox Tradition.

On Television: Comments by Various Saints and Holy Elders.

Young Children in the Orthodox Church: Some Basic Guidelines, by Presbytera Julianna Cownie. A superb companion to her A Guide to Orthodox Life.

The Challenges of Orthodox Youth Ministry, by Protopresbyter David Cownie.

On Same-Sex Unions: Epistle of the ROCOR W. Diocese Clergy (2004).

An Orthodox View of Abortion: The Amicus Curiae Brief submitted to the Supreme Court.

Problems of Bioethics, i.e., Abortion, Contraceptives, Cloning, Homosexuality, Etc. An official statement of the Russian Orthodox Church.

Menstruation, Emissions, and Holy Communion: an Orthodox Tradition Q&A.

Concerning the Sin of Self-Abuse (Masturbation), by Archbishop Chrysostomos and Dr. Thomas Brecht.

Sexual Relations, by Father Josiah Trenham.

Choosing a Spouse. From Orthodox America, Feb. 1998.

Recommended Books

Foreward, Preface and Introduction to Marriage As A Path to Holiness, by David and Mary Ford (South Canaan, PA: St. Tikhon's Seminary Press, 1999).

Love, Sexuality and the Sacrament of Marriage, by John Chryssavgis (Brookline, MA: Holy Cross Orthodox Press, 1998).

On Marriage and Family Life, by St. John Chrysostom (Crestwood, NY: St. Vladimir's Seminary Press, 1997).

 

We have been given an important security—children. Therefore we shall take care of them, and take every precaution that the evil one may not steal them from us. Meanwhile, we do everything backward. We make every effort to insure that our fields be in good hands. We seek out the most experienced mule drivers and overseers, but we take no such precautions for what is the most precious to us and through which all other good things come, namely, that we might entrust our son to a man that would preserve his chastity. We take care to provide him with property, but take no care for him himself. Do you see what insanity has taken control of us! First of all educate your son's soul, and he will acquire possessions later. If his soul is bad he will not receive the slightest benefit from money. And vice versa, if he has been given the proper upbringing, then poverty will not harm him in the least. Do you want to leave him wealthy? Teach him to be good. For children who have not received the proper upbringing poverty is better than wealth; it will keep them even against their will within the bounds of virtue. However, wealth, even for one who does not wish it, does not allow one to live a chaste life, but lures him into a countless multitude of crimes.

St. John Chrysostomos in Admonitions for Parents.

If you have a child with a reactionary character, whatever you want to say to him, say to God first. Kneel before God, and through the grace of God, our words will be conveyed to your child.... Another child may listen to what you say, but though he hears he easily forgets. Therefore, you will kneel and ask for God's grace again, so that our fatherly words will fall upon good soil and bear fruit... Don't pressure your children. Whatever you want to say to them, say it with your prayers. Children don't listen with their ears. They will only listen to what we want to tell them when divine grace appears and enlightens them. When you want to say something to your child, say it to the Panaghia instead and she will do all the work. Your prayer will become a spiritual hug, which embraces your children and captivates them.

Elder Porphyrios of Athens