Living the Monastic Life in the World
Question: I want to give my life completely to Christ, but do not want
to go to a monastery. Is it really necessary to be in a monastery to lead a
monastic life? Can’t I live as a monastic in the world?
This is a question that comes up quite often, except that it
is usually in the form of a statement. May God bless your humility in asking
this instead of informing and declaring that a monastery is not necessary for
one who desires a monastic life!
First, you must realize that God’s grace is present everywhere, but it is
especially felt in a monastery. When people visit a monastery, they feel that it is a holy place where God
is present. Paradoxically, the monastics who dwell in
that monastery more often feel the intense spiritual warfare that the evil one
is waging against them. When visitors came to one monastery and said to one of
the nuns, “It is so peaceful here,” she replied, “You feel the peace, we see
the warfare.”
Anyone who strives to fulfill the Gospel commandments, who
tries to live truly according to the teachings of the Church, feels both
of these aspects to some degree: both the grace of God in their lives, but also
the intense battle that the devil and his legions wage against him. The more
intensely we strive to serve God, the more the evil one seeks to deter us from
our path. This is most true in the life of one who renounces the world and
seeks to live completely for Christ.
So, can this be done while living in the world? Yes. And no.
One can certainly, with God’s help, live according to the Gospel commandments
and the teachings of the Church in the world, maintaining a job, being faithful
in the Church, living according to the “little holy trinity” of prayer, fasting
and almsgiving, reading the lives of the saints and other soul edifying books,
etc. This is all what the Church requires
of
all her faithful. This is all
according to the commandments. Such a person may participate in some “worldly”
activities which are not harmful—certain and limited sports, wholesome
entertainment, etc., without losing his focus on God.
The monastic life takes in what the fathers refer to as the “Evangelical
advice.” Remember the rich young man in the Gospel who asked the Lord,
What must I do to inherit eternal life?
The Lord told him to keep the commandments, which the man stated that he had
done since his youth. Then the Lord said, if you want, sell all you have, take up your cross, and
come, follow me (Mark 10:21).
If you want!!! In other words, it is
not mandatory for salvation to give up everything, only “if you want” These
were the words which St. Anthony heard and which led him to begin his monastic
life. We know that his early monastic life was spent at first with an elder on
the edge of the town, and that later he went off into the desert.
The world holds many temptations for us. Some of the pleasures of worldly life
are not bad: marrying and having children are certainly blessed by Christ who
worked His first public miracle at the wedding of Cana in Galilee.
Being with other people—even those who are not of our faith—is not bad in
itself, but it can lead one down a wrong path if one is not careful. Certain
entertainments, as we mentioned above, are not bad in themselves, as long as
they do not become passions. But the monastic is the one who chooses the
narrower path. In order to follow this path, he must have others who are
experienced in the dangers, pitfalls and perils along the way. You can find
this only in a monastery with others who are struggling (while falling and
getting back up again) on that same path.
If you are trying to walk that narrow path in the world with all its
temptations and you fall (and you will
fall), who will help to lift you up again? More than likely, those who are
falling in the same pits as you will encourage you to remain and wallow in the
mire. In the monastery, not only do you have the more experienced who can guide
and reprimand you when you stray, but that great grace from God also surrounds
you and assists you in these struggles. The very monastic garment itself is
holy and guards the monastic.
Let’s take an innocent example to illustrate how important the habit is: Let’s
say you are driving through a rather desolate area and are very thirsty. You
come upon a small settlement that has a few houses and a bar, but no gas
station or grocery store or other place where you could find a cup of coffee or
soft drink or tea. (There are many such towns in the west!) You stop your car
and go in the bar to get a nonalcoholic drink. There is nothing wrong with that
in itself. Yet when you are saying your prayers, you remember the things you
saw in the bar, perhaps lewd jokes, inappropriately dressed people, etc. Even
though you did nothing wrong, still, your prayer is disturbed by these
remembrances.
The monk or nun who would be traveling along that same road and who is equally
thirsty would not go into such an establishment. The habit itself would be as
the walls of the monastery protecting him from doing so, for as innocent as his
intention would be in wanting a glass of ice tea, he could not bring scandal
upon the Church by going into such a place.
There is another pitfall which catches everyone who tries to live the monastic
life in the world. Pride. This is not to say that
pride does not assail those in the monastery! It certainly does, however in the
monastic setting, when one begins to fall into pride,
there are elders who are quick to cut off that sin in the novice. You are not somebody
in the monastery because you
are fasting and praying—everyone is doing that! You are not considered as
“pious” because you struggle to obtain the virtues—that is what is expected.
But when you say, “I can lead the monastic life in the world and not bother
going into the monastery” you are declaring already quite pridefully
that you already know it all! Then, instead of all your efforts going toward
your salvation, you will have lost everything.
There is no question that there are monastics who live as anchorites. That life cannot be compared to what
you are requesting. Those who live such a monastic life do so only after many
years in a monastery and only with the blessing of their monastic elder. When a
brother would ask Elder Cleopa for a blessing to go
off into the forest alone to live, the Elder would tell him, “after you have
been in obedience for thirty years, then come back to me and we will think
about it!”
Do not dismiss that grace which works invisibly in the monastery. It is very
powerful and without it none in a monastery would be saved. The holy fathers
say that when you are saved you are saved in community; but when you fall, you
fall alone.
If you want to be saved in the world, follow the commandments; if you want to
as a monastic, go to a monastery and submit to the superior of that monastery
and to its rules.
From The Veil, Vol. 12, No. 2 (Summer, 2005).
The Veil is a publication of the Protection of the Holy Virgin Orthodox Monastery. Free
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Lake George, CO 80827; 719-748-3999. Posted on 12/10/2006 with the permission of the convent.
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